Do you agonize over decisions? Do you sometimes feel like there’s a roomful of people shouting in your ear telling you what to do? Does making a choice create a lot of anxiety for you?
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Now let’s talk about what else you can do to find that clarity and make decisions with more ease.
First off, stop beating yourself up and give yourself a hug and a little compassion. Take a few minutes to sit quietly and listen for the wise voice that I know is within you.
Voice, what voice? We all have an inner voice, our still small voice – it may take practice to hear it.
Some people really do hear a voice, but too often it’s that critical voice that tells you everything you’ve done wrong, or how you are lacking in the world. If that’s the voice you hear, it’s the wrong voice. Oftentimes this is the voice of our mother, father, teachers, nuns, priests, rabbis and other people who had influence in our early lives.<
The more you listen to the Other voice, that small voice within, the quieter the critical voices become.
The small voice within is your soul speaking to you (also known as your higher self, your intuition, even your guides). This voice will always, always be supportive and helpful. It may not always tell you what you want to hear. It can tell you when you’re on the wrong path, or that something needs to change. It can warn you against doing things that are not in your best interests. But it never, ever criticizes, just supports you in going in a different direction.
I was struck by the fact that this is often referred to as “the still small voice within”. If it’s a voice that’s supposed to be speaking up and supporting you shouldn’t it be active and not still?
What happens when it’s so still or so quiet that you can’t hear it?
Many people tell me they don’t hear a voice. Well, that’s possible because there are so many ways for it to communicate with you. Actually truly hearing a voice is less common than some of the other ways: a sense of knowing, a gut feeling, a sudden inspiration, unexplainable synchronicity, a nudge, and so many ways all individual to you.
Unfortunately, that voice probably won’t be as clear as listening to your stereo, but you can find a way to make it clearer and stronger. It gets easier with practice.
Another reason for not hearing the voice is all the thoughts bouncing around in your head. When you are stressed or anxious, the more they bounce around and the more the stress and anxiety increases making it harder to listen. Your mind can keep you going around in circles, bringing up more and more questions, objections, worries, issues and, oh my, it can get crazy in there.
How do you quiet the critical voice, calm the stress and anxiety and tune into the wisdom that is there just waiting for you?
First off, take a break. Put the question aside for a bit. Take a walk in nature. Do a craft project. Make jewelry. Call a friend. Dance. Draw. Take a shower or long hot bath. Go somewhere and sit where you can look out on the world, it’s amazing how that gives a different perspective and a “space” away from your problems.
Try this simple Technique that’s been working for me for nearly 30 years.
Once you’re feeling a little more relaxed, try this technique that has been working for me for nearly 30 years. It uses the innate knowledge of your deeper self. Your soul knows the answers and is just dying to share them with you.
Try it yourself. I will tell you right now, the more you do it, the more you trust it, the stronger and easier it becomes.
Find a quiet place where you can take a few minutes to allow yourself to experience this process. (Yes, it works even when you don’t have that quiet place, but for starters, it’s easier in a calm quiet place.)
Do a before assessment of 3 areas.
- Write down some specifics. Writing will help you get clear on your experience, especially when you are learning the technique.
- Your body: How does your body feel? Are you relaxed or tense? Do you have pain anywhere? Are you tired or energized?
- Your emotions: What emotion are you feeling? Are you Calm? Happy? Sad? Angry? Anxious
- Your mind: Count to ten, and pay attention to the “pace of your mind”. How fast are you counting? Is there a rhythm? Or anything else that’s notable?
Write down two or three options or choices.
- Take a few deep breaths to clear your mind.
- Visualize yourself going through with option #1 or ask a question.
- Questions should be general, such as “Would doing……benefit me?” or “Is going to (doing) …… in my highest interest or for my highest good?
- Take 3 more deep breaths and let the question go.
Go through the 3 steps above, body, emotions, and pace of mind. Write them down as you go.
Do a Reassessment
- How does your body feel? How has it changed from the “before” picture? Are you tired where you had been energized or vice versa? Do you have a new pain in your body? Or did a previous pain leave?
- How are you feeling emotionally? What, if anything, feels different than before?
- Count to ten again. Is there a shift in the speed or cadence of your counting?
- Take a few more deep breaths.
Visualize each of the other choices you wrote down, each time taking a few deep breaths between choices.
Look back at your notes – In most cases, the choice will be clear
What choices made you feel energized, light, happy, calm, or certain? Was there one in which suddenly your mind was really slow, or kind of spacey, or speedy, or….?
Most of the time you will notice a definite change of responses in each visualization. The choice that has the most positive effect in all areas is Your Still Small Voice responding through your body, emotions, and mind. Go for the juice!
Here’s an example from my life.
I was planning on moving to Boston. I’d gone to Boston, gone on several job interviews, checked out apartment prices, talked to friends, even got an astro-cartography report that was highly positive. However, when I was in Boston, it felt difficult and heavy. But gosh how could that be, my astro-cartography was fabulous, I had good friends there and so much else pointed in that direction? I was completely baffled and was trying my best to ignore these inner signals, my mind kept giving me all the positives.
I was back home in Montana and I got a phone call from the one company that I was most interested in working with. However, the offer he made was ridiculous, about $10-15K less than a livable wage in Boston. My answer was a definite “NO”.
I put on some music and sat down to meditate, just letting my mind wander. Suddenly a vision of California popped into my head. My entire body was tingling; I had so much energy flowing through me. The heavy feeling I’d felt thinking about Boston was Gone. I couldn’t quit smiling. This made NO SENSE at all; I didn’t want to move to California. I didn’t know a single person there. It was even more expensive than Boston. They have earthquakes. Don’t get me wrong, I love California as a place to visit, but never ever considered living there.
My response was so clear, so immediate and so strong; I started checking out jobs online. I applied for a number of jobs, lined up some interviews, quit my job, packed everything in a U-Haul and moved. Yep, I moved Before I even had an interview. I had a job within 10 days of getting there and even had a free apartment for up to 3 months.
Did it all work out perfectly? Nope. That first job only lasted 6 months, but shortly after it ended, my dream job showed up and I spent five happy years working with some amazing people. And I met my husband there 4 years later.
Another note about this technique and the way I find the universe works.
You probably won’t see the whole picture or all the steps that are needed down the road. What you will see, is what’s yours to do Now. The following steps and guidance will follow as needed. So relax and follow your guidance. It’s an interesting and exciting journey.
You can use this technique to tune into almost anything, a move, a new relationship, a trip, a job, an event you’re thinking of attending, which gemstone is right for you today…and so much more.
It gets much easier so keep trying
The more you practice, the easier it is and the more you will trust yourself and the feedback you are getting. I am sure that you will find this to be an extremely helpful technique for quieting your anxious mind. The more you do it, the more you trust, the more immediate and clear the answers become.
Use this to move to a more empowered phase in your life, one in which you are open to all your own wisdom and easily guided to your next step, and your next step, each piece unfolding into the next.
Gemstones and the BioShield can help here as well.
The Shield helps clear your energy field so you aren’t being as affected by all the thoughts, fears, needs, and emotions of those around you.
I have a couple of gemstone combinations that I especially recommend for helping with decisions. Focused Manifestation, and Empath’s Bridge – click here to see the beaded chains
that are perfect for wearing alone or with a Shield. For other options visit my website for other creations. 1st to 3rd chakras for grounding, decisions etc; 5th to 7th to help open your vision.