Are you Easily Affected by the Mood of Others?
This means you have Permeable or Thin Boundaries. This is just one of 5 Sensitivity Types.
What are Permeable or Thin Boundaries?
What this means in your every day life.
First off, let me tell you there's nothing wrong with you, it's not a character flaw, you simply don't have the natural defenses that some people have.
You may have been called thin-skinned, or too sensitive most of your life. You may tend to be extremely open, trusting and connect with others easily. You very possibly feel alienated and shut out around people with very thick boundaries, tend to think they are shutting you out, when really it’s just how their energy works.
Can you just decide to have thicker boundaries? No, you’re just not built that way. You may feel at times like you're as fragile as this gossamer dragonfly wing, or as easily punctured as a bubble. But you can learn coping techniques and wear a BioShield to help with a lot of the energetic overstimulation and absorption. You might be surprised at what it’s like to be “just you” in your skin.
You might even find that you like yourself a lot better when you aren't picking up on so much of the thoughts and fears around you.
NOTE; If you haven't already done so, please take our HSP/Empath quiz for more information on your sensitivity types which will be followed up with tips to help ease your life.
Emotional Characteristics You Probably Have
Open and Trusting - You may tend to be extremely open, trusting and connect with others easily. You very possibly feel alienated and shut out when you are around people with very thick boundaries. It feels like they are purposely shutting you out; when really it’s just how their energy works. Understanding yourself and being aware that most of the world feels things differently, is a first big step in feeling less vulnerable and helpless.
Emotional Overwhelm - Intense emotional situations can make you feel overwhelmed or even like you’re being attacked setting up feelings of fight or flight, anxiety, fear or even anger as a self-defense mechanism. Your entire energy field and body is like a walking antenna, you notice and feel everything going on around you and internalize it.
Pain and Pleasure - You feel both pain and pleasure to a high degree.
Risk Factors - You are at higher risk of allergies, illness, and electromagnetic sensitivity. You also may be at risk of simply giving too much of yourself to too many.
Over stimulation - Like the Sensory HSP, bright lights, loud noises, odors and over stimulation has a very powerful detrimental effect on you. You’ll find many of the suggestions there will be helpful for you as well.
How These Characteristics Affect Your Life
Being Misunderstood - Let's face it, you can't imagine what it would be like to have thick boundaries, and the thick boundary people just can't understand what it's like to be you. Don't take it personally, and don't let them make you feel like it's something wrong with you.
Just Say NO - You may also have a lot of difficulties saying “No”. It’s important for you to have the people around you like and appreciate you. You become a people pleaser. Please don’t turn this against yourself as something wrong with you, let me explain a bit more. It’s important for you to have harmony with the people in your life, anything else is highly painful and disruptive. You probably learned at an early age that saying yes, and going out of your way to keep everyone happy, kept your world much more calm and secure.
However, there’s a price to pay. You often give too much of yourself and don't have time or energy for the things you want to do. You end up doing things that are really not in your best interest. You sometimes even lose track of who you are as a person.
Energy Vampires - Thin boundary people also tend to attract those who want to take advantage in various ways, including feeding off your energy. We call these people energy vampires. Some are completely unintentional, others are doing it on purpose and targeting people like you who are more open and naturally giving. Learn some energy protection techniques and wearing your BioShield can help as well.
Crisis Junkies - You may also find that you attract people who seem to always be in crisis, this is one way they can get a lot of energy from you, constantly draining your energy, attention and joy. For your own well-being, it may be necessary to limit your interactions with crisis junkies. I'm not saying stay away from anyone in crisis but pay attention to those in your life who seem to go from one crisis to another to another. They may be addicted not only to the rush they get from being in crisis but also to the energy outpouring of all those friends who just want to help.
Other Issues Associated with Permeable Boundaries
ADD-ADHD Symptoms - You may also find it’s difficult to stay organized and on track. Your thin boundaries let in too much, and you’re in constant reaction. Your antennae is picking up on everything around you, so your energy field is trying to react to too much and isn't sure what to pay attention to next. Many have found that wearing a BioElectric Shield helps to reduce this scattered feeling.
Is what you're feeling yours? One thing that’s often helpful is to take a few moments when you’re feeling strong emotions and ask if this truly relates to what’s going on in your life, or is this thought, feeling or emotion coming from outside of you. Often just naming what it is, takes a lot of the immediacy out of it, and you’re able to get a more objective view of it.
Are you an Empath? Thin boundary people are often empaths and feel other people’s pain and emotion as their own. Even if you're not an empath, you may get some more valuable tips from the articles for empaths– LINK TO EMPATHS
Bottom Line - You're sensitive and you can learn ways to deal with your levels of sensitivity in ways that are healthier and more empowering. Sign up for our Newsletter and be sure to Click " Tips for Empaths and Highly Sensitive" to get updates on blog posts, articles and tips for HSPs.
Articles that may be of interest
Shouldn't I be Able to Protect Myself? Why Do I need a Shield?
Byron Katie's "The Work" may also help you when you are internalizing something.
Life Can Be Easier for YouI hope you will consider getting a BioElectric Shield - the Shield balances and strengthens your energy field, deflects much of the energy coming from other people and technology, and can be an HSPs best friend.
Click Here Take our EMF Protection Quiz to help you determine the Shield level that will be best for you
Click Here To get a Free Photo Analysis - we take your level of sensitivity and EMF exposure into account when making recommendations.
Click Here to consult our Shield Buyers Guide - This chart will help you match up your lifestyle, energy sensitivities and EMF exposure to help you decide which level of Shield will be best for you.
The 6 HSP Subtypes
When you take the HSP Quiz, you will learn your level of sensitivity overall as well as for the following six subtypes we have identified. Click here to learn more about each subtype: