Holidays: Enjoyment vs. Stress!

Holidays May be Especially Difficult if You're a "Highly Sensitive Person"

EnjoymentVsStressHolidaysThe holidays are here again. This time of year is always filled with so much emotion, anxiety, anticipation, love, joy, worry...it’s sometimes hard to stay focused. Boundaries tend to get very blurred more easily at this time a year.

We’re all trying to have the Christmas Spirit, unfortunately, we often think that means giving up too much of ourselves, our time, our energy and our money.

  • Do you avoid certain people or places because you feel uncomfortable, tired, angry, sad… around them?
  • Do you unplug your telephone because you are afraid someone will call and ask for a favor?
  • Do you ever drink too much at parties because it is the only way you know to relieve tension?
  • Do you ever say yes to doing something for or with someone when you know you really don’t have the time, energy or resources?
  • Have you ever spent time with people you don’t like or feel uncomfortable with because you are afraid to hurt their feelings?

If you answered yes, to any of these questions, you may be struggling with boundary issues.

We all want to feel secure, loved and accepted. But can we do it, without shrinking our world, or giving up our self-identity?

Dag Hammarskjold once said,

“The more carefully we listen to the voice inside of us, the more clearly we will hear what is sounding outside.”

You can hear that voice inside more clearly when you aren't hearing the voices of everyone else. The BioShield can actually help you with this. The Shield deflects other people's energy, thoughts and emotions and allows you to be in a stronger, clearer space.

Consider a Level 3 Shield, if you are especially sensitive.

Send in your photo for evaluation if you want help choosing a Shield - our consultant can tell us which one is going to be most effective for you.

More tips for getting through the holidays 

How Can you get through the Holidays with More Ease?

Slow Holidays: A Survival Guide for Sensitives, HSPs and Empath’s

 

Have a Happy Holiday

Virginia and AnnaMariah

 

Excerpt from BioElectric Shield Healthy Joyful Living Newsletter – December 2008

Holidays: Enjoyment vs. Stress!

The holidays are here again. This time of year is always filled with so much emotion, anxiety, anticipation, love, joy, worry...it’s sometimes hard to stay focused and boundaries tend to get very blurred more easily at this time a year. We’re all trying to have the Christmas Spirit, unfortunately, we often think that means giving up too much of ourselves, our time, our energy and our money.

· Do you you avoid certain people or places because you feel uncomfortable, tired, angry, sad… around them?

· Do you unplug your telephone because you are afraid someone will call and ask for a favor?

· Do you ever drink too much at parties because it is the only way you know to relieve tension?

· Do you ever say yes to doing something for or with someone when you know you really don’t have the time, energy or resources?

· Have you ever spent time with people you don’t like or feel uncomfortable with because you are afraid to hurt their feelings?

If you answered yes, to any of these questions, you may be struggling with boundary issues.

We all want to feel secure, loved and accepted. But can we do it, without shrinking our world, or giving up our self-identity?

Dag Hammarskjold once said,

“The more carefully we listen to the voice inside of us, the more clearly we will hear what is sounding outside.”

Healthy and Happy during the Holidays
Some ideas…

How do you get through the holidays without feeling exhausted, drained, frustrated and sad? There’s no one answer, but what I’ve found helps is to over and over again take a few minutes to set priorities. What really needs to be done? Who do I really want to spend time with? Can things be simplified? It sounds like I’m talking about tasks here doesn’t it? Well, emotional boundaries and our to-do lists tend to get blurred together, our desire to connect in loving ways causes us to lose track of what we can or should do on all levels.

One thing I’ve found that has helped me over the years is wearing my BioElectric Shield. The Shield helps your energy stay centered and balanced, and helps to deflect other people’s energy. However, because we are often so connected to friends and family, we tend to still reach out and let in or absorb too much of their anxiety, pain, anticipation….you get the general idea. The Shield can’t keep you completely isolated, nor can it keep you from taking on energies when you open yourself up to them. It can, however, assist you in being aware of what’s you, what’s not and help you learn to shift that old pattern. Take a few minutes a day to center yourself and ask if what you’re feeling is all yours. If not, just take a deep breath, and hold the intention that you will be clear, loving and present, but will be so without taking on anyone else’s energy.

If you find that after a time of practicing this you’re still having difficulty with this issue, you may want to consider upgrading to the next “level” of Shield protection. It may be that the Shield you are wearing isn’t quite as effective as it can be.

Set realistic goals and be flexible, but not so flexible that you give up your own personal time and space. Some of us are energized by being social, others need more personal reflective time. Know how much social and personal time you need. Let go of the image of the “perfect” holiday or “but that’s the way we’ve always done it”. Make some new traditions or change your expectations and goals if necessary. Also be aware that other people may be feeling the need to do the same. Don’t take it personally if they also change plans or don’t do it the way they’ve always done it.

Here are some suggestions on what you can do to make the holidays less stressful.

1. Family get-togethers are fraught with anticipation, need, guilt, and love. Sit down with your family and decide what you want to do for the holiday season – do you really want to do things the way “it’s always been done” or would it be helpful to change some things, simplify or make them more meaningful? 

2. Don’t set expectations too high for yourself or the day. If you wish things to be the same, you are going to be disappointed. 

3. Let go of the feeling that there is a right or wrong way. Just because it’s tradition doesn’t mean it can’t change.

4. There is no right or wrong way to handle the day. Some may wish to follow family traditions, while others may choose to change.

5. Watch the “shoulds.” Pay attention to what is actually doable for you and your family.

6. Set limits. Do the things that are very special and/or important to you. Let some of the other things go.

7. Do you really have to bake that pie, cut that tree, make that gift? Does the thought of doing it make you tired? Then give yourself a break and go buy one.

8. Does shopping sound like fun or a chore? Consider buying online or through a catalog. Talk to your friends and family and determine if you really need to exchange gifts. What about just exchanging heart-felt letters?

9. Cut back on sending cards. If you’re going to see someone over the holidays, do you really need to send a card?

10. Don’t forget, anticipation of any holiday can be worse than the actual holiday.

Above all, relax and enjoy yourself.

 
 
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