Do you thrive on all the activities of the holidays? Do all those lists, shopping, plans, cooking and so on and on leave, you feeling energized or exhausted? If you answered yes, you can quit reading now.
However, if like many of us, you find the Holidays a mixed-bag and often end up feeling exhausted, drained, frustrated or sad, then keep reading.
There is certainly not a one-size-fits-all answer to how do “do” the Holidays. But this is a good time to take a careful assessment of which activities you enjoy, and which you do only because you “should”.
Just a few minutes setting priorities may make all the difference.
Take a few minutes not to set some priorities and things may go a little smoother allowing you to breeze through December with a smile on your face.
Don’t you just hate the pressure of finding the perfect gift?
I do! I start my holiday shopping early in the fall, because I’m picky about what I give my friends and family. And there are always people “impossible” to buy for! I’m torn between buying what I would want or finding something to fit them. (Hint: if we love it, they’ll probably feel the same way!) Whatever I buy, I worry they won’t be happy.
Are you a Co-Dependent gift giver?
You guessed it. I’m a co-dependent gift giver. Enough is never enough! Over the years I’ve learned to soften the edges of my holiday shopping anxiety with this simple mantra: It really is the thought that counts!
You don’t have to be an HSP (highly sensitive person) or Empath to find useful information in this post.
Do you have times where life just seems difficult or overwhelming?
We all have times in our lives where things feel difficult, chaotic or overwhelming. Life seems harder, you tend to be more affected by the people, circumstances, and energies around you. Even if you wouldn’t normally describe yourself as sensitive, you may find yourself feeling unusually triggered or unable to cope.
These tips may help during those times and during the Holidays
The Holidays are a time when you may be struggling to maintain your normal balance and calm. Some of these tips may come in handy now and at other times when you’re under additional stress. There is often too much to do, too many expectations, and other emotional ups and downs that may come up at this time of year.
You may be feeling emotions more strongly, and have thoughts, feelings, and sensations that you just can’t explain. In the course of a day you may swing wildly from happy, to sad, to fearful and back up (hopefully) to feeling good?
Valentine’s Day – Oh the anticipation! We decorated boxes with hearts, ribbons, glitter and other beautiful things, and put them on our desks, awaiting the delivery, hopefully, of valentines from our friends and admirers. Even as adults we often feel lonely and isolated because we either don’t have a sweetheart, or the one we do have doesn’t show their love the way we’d like.
Instead of thinking about all the unmet expectations and sense of isolation this holiday often brings about, you can use this as an opportunity to spread love. How can you make this day not just romantic love, but actual heartfelt compassion for others and yourself? Continue reading →
“I believe that slowness is an act of resistance, not because slowness is good in itself but because of all it makes room for, the things that don’t get measured and can’t be bought.” Rebecca Solnit, “Finding Time,” Orion Magazine, 2007
When we’re sensitive to other people’s emotions and struggles, holidays bring extra challenges. Winter celebrations bring their own craziness, the joy/grief cycle of memory, reunions and rituals that touch everyone to the core. Just riding our own rollercoaster is enough! But when we are empathic, we sense everyone else’s wild ride, too! It can be overwhelming. Continue reading →
Memorial Day marks the beginning of summer in the US, and it’s traditionally a day of recognition of those who served our country and died in the effort. Large numbers of people, families and areas have broadened the scope to include honoring those who have fallen in the effort to protect our safety: Police, Firefighters, EMTs, volunteers, etc. as well as friends and family who have passed on. Simply put, it’s a time to remember and honor all who are no longer with us, regardless of how or why they died. Continue reading →