How are you dealing with our current situation? Are you responding to the world around you with fear or love? You can stay safe and keep your distance, and still connect in meaningful ways.
WE SEE WHAT WE EXPECT TO SEE
I got a call recently from a dear friend, “Bonnie” who was upset after a phone call with a woman who said that everywhere she looked people were mean and closed off. Bonnie said she felt she was in need of a reality check.
I asked if her personal experience was of people being unfriendly. Her response was “No, in fact I went to the grocery store briefly as I’d forgotten some very essential items when I stocked up. I was wearing gloves, but a neighbor asked if I had a mask. When I said no, he said he had an extra and handed me one still in its wrapper. Then when I was in line – 6 feet away from the person in front or behind me – I had only a few items and the woman in front of me let me go in front of her.” (Note: this was just as they were changing the protocol and asking people to wear a mask, and she hadn’t yet been able to get one)
We see what we expect to see. If you are in fear, and your life view is that people are selfish and mean, you will only see the people who fulfill your expectations. If, however, you’re like Bonnie who expects to see people acting in loving, supportive ways, that is what you will see.
I remember a few times being with friends at gatherings and our experiences and what we saw were completely different. During the Clinton/Monica issue a friend and I had gotten trapped in a group of people outside his hotel in San Jose. I l saw that there were equal numbers of people with signs supporting him and against him. I commented that I thought it was awesome that they were standing peacefully next to each other. The woman I was with was flabbergasted and said “I think you need glasses. There isn’t a single person here who is in favor of Clinton.”
Another time, I was at a party and my experience was of everyone having a great time, laughing and truly enjoying each other’s company. I was stunned the next day when “Betsy” who had been beside me during a lot of the previous evening started telling me how this person was hurt and upset by this one and on and on in a litany that made it abundantly clear we’d been in different rooms with different people.
HOW DOES YOUR RESPONSE AFFECT YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM?
Take 2 minutes to do a little experiment. Check-in with yourself:
- How does your body feel? Are you energized, exhausted, in pain?
- Take your pulse if possible.
- How are you feeling emotionally?
- That’s your baseline.
- Now read a couple of scary news articles, blogs, watch some videos.
- Check back in and go over the same things. What’s changed?
- Take a few minutes and meditate on something positive, or watch some funny videos, etc, just do something that’s positive
- Check in again and see what’s changed?
Does the first experiment cause tightness, anxiety, maybe even depression and a faster pulse?This adrenal response stresses your immune system.
The positive portion of this should have you feeling much more able to handle things as they come up in a more focused way and actually relieves the stress on your adrenals and immune system.
You might be surprised and pleased to know that the BioShield helps you “come back to center” more quickly, it also helps you not get as hooked or triggered – all that news has a lot of energy behind it, and can be extremely draining as well as causing adrenal reactions. The Shield helps you not take in those chaotic/fearful vibes, and brings more calm to your entire body.
WHAT ARE YOU FOCUSING ON?
You can choose what you focus on. Are you going to allow yourself to get stuck on finger-pointing, blaming, shaming, conspiracy theories, and a host of other things that aren’t going to make a difference right now in how we all get through this? Or are you going to go out of your way to find ways to stay positive and reach out in support and love? Yes, we’re staying home, but you can email, message, call, Facebook, Tweet, etc.
By choosing to respond to the pandemic by helping and loving one another, you can help create an energy of love and positivity.
A POEM TO REMEMBER
A poem that expresses this trend beautifully was written recently by Kitty O’Meara.
Irish Central staff wrote this on their website:
“A retired [Irish American] teacher, Kitty O’Meara, from the city of Madison, in Wisconsin, turned to writing in an effort to curb her own anxiety. The result, which she posted to her personal Facebook, has been widely read across the world, offering hope that something good can come out of this collective state of “together, apart.”
This is Ms. O’Meara’s untitled poem:
“And the people stayed home. And read books, and listened, and rested,
and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways
of being, and were still. And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some
prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to
“And the people healed. And, in the absence of people living in ignorant,
dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
“And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they
grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images,
and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been
WE CAN EACH ADD POSITIVE ENERGY TO OUR ENVIRONMENT
Maintaining this positive attitude will go far toward carrying us all through this challenging time, and into an even more beautiful future. We also need to care for our bodies and use our common sense as we make our way through the pandemic.
Writing this reminded me of a post from many years ago Random Acts of Kindness Bring Back our Humanity
My question is, what can you think of doing to help others while staying home and social distancing?
We’d love to have you share your ideas on social media.
Imagine walking down the empty sidewalk and seeing a succession of uplifting messages? Wouldn’t that just make your day?
Ideas – just to get you started
- A couple of rolls of toilet paper, sealed in a gallon baggie, hung on a post with a bow.
- Print or copy and send coloring books free in the mail for both kids and adults. Including a box of markers if possible.
- A friend, Elvira, took volunteered to take a furlough from her job at an airline so some others who really needed it could keep working. She’s delivering meals to people.
- Share uplifting posts, videos, music etc, to friends who aren’t on social media. If you’re on social media you have access to a lot of fun posts right now, but those who aren’t online don’t see them. Take a minute to send in an email, text, or even print some of the funny photos and mail them to a friend.
- 12 Individual Acts of Kindness
Not sure you need to stay home?
Here’s an interesting article about Social Distancing as an act of altruism
You can choose how you want to respond to any situation – fear or love. Love and positive focus will boost your immune system and help give you the stamina to keep going.
Although there are very sad, serious things happening, allowing yourself to get mired in those emotions doesn’t help anyone. I hope you’re experiencing moments that bring you joy, love and laughter.
We’ll get through this together