Do you feel like you’re drowning in a sea of other people’s emotions? If so you may be a highly sensitive person or empath.
So how do you know, if you’re sensitive?
Have people told you that you’re just too sensitive. Or suggested that you just need a thicker skin?
Do you ever walk into a room where someone is really upset, mad, sad, anxious….and within minutes your good mood is a thing of the past. You become an almost perfect reflection of what the other person is feeling.
Do you have days, weeks even, where you just can’t seem to find your emotional center? You’re up, down
Did you know your smart phone can affect your brain? According to the Dr. Karen Smith, California Department of Public Health, about 95% of Americans own a cell phone. Kids get their first phone when they are 10. If you have A Deadly Wandering, by Matt Richtel, you already know that the sound you get when a text message comes in triggers a spurt of the pleasure neurotransmitter, dopamine. It doesn’t take very long for adults, but particularly for children, to form an addiction to those dopamine squirts! The greater concern is leaving your cell phones in your bedroom at night.
The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers… William Wordsworth
Our daily lives, full of obligation and negotiation, can be overwhelming. We toast together on New Year’s Eve, promising to create something new and better in the days to come. In that moment, anything is possible. So how do we move beyond the grind of our old routines and concerns once the party’s over?
Curiosity is the key. Sure, we need willpower and discipline. It also helps to create buddy systems to get us to the gym or make us accountable for our goals. And making that doctor’s appointment or finding a great coach gives us professional support and new tools. But these excellent strategies only work when we approach the puzzle with curiosity. Continue reading →
Ten Reasons to Smile and Laugh Your Way Through the Holidays
Holidays can produce joy OR stress, or both! You can create your own holiday mood by taking control of your emotions using smiles and laughter. Your body will respond immediately with happy feelings when you smile – and if you want to make other people happy, follow the same recipe – smiling and laughter. Here are 10 reasons to Smile and Laugh your way through the holidays, including some great youtube links to laughter-inducing funniest home videos!
1. Smiling Triggers the Release of Endorphins
The more endorphins you release, the happier you are! When you smile the muscle movement in your face triggers your brain to activate neurotransmitters which release endorphins. Endorphins like dopamine and serotonin are our feel-good chemicals.
Do you thrive on all the activities of the holidays? Do all those lists, shopping, plans, cooking and so on and on leave, you feeling energized or exhausted? If you answered yes, you can quit reading now.
However, if like many of us, you find the Holidays a mixed-bag and often end up feeling exhausted, drained, frustrated or sad, then keep reading.
There is certainly not a one-size-fits-all answer to how do “do” the Holidays. But this is a good time to take a careful assessment of which activities you enjoy, and which you do only because you “should”.
Just a few minutes setting priorities may make all the difference.
Take a few minutes not to set some priorities and things may go a little smoother allowing you to breeze through December with a smile on your face.
What’s a Holiday Sensitivity Profile? It’s your energy profile and prediction of how well you’ll get through the holiday!
The holidays are upon us again. For many of us, the holidays are a mixed bag. While many people look forward to them, others dread them or have mixed feelings for a variety of reasons.
I was reminded of this yesterday when talking to a very balanced, focused friend who was feeling “off” and kind of sad. When I mentioned that it’s almost Thanksgiving, she immediately knew that’s what was wrong.
If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person it’s quite likely that the holidays are more of a struggle for you, but even people who don’t normally have a problem find the holidays to be very stressful.
Don’t you just hate the pressure of finding the perfect gift?
I do! I start my holiday shopping early in the fall, because I’m picky about what I give my friends and family. And there are always people “impossible” to buy for! I’m torn between buying what I would want or finding something to fit them. (Hint: if we love it, they’ll probably feel the same way!) Whatever I buy, I worry they won’t be happy.
Are you a Co-Dependent gift giver?
You guessed it. I’m a co-dependent gift giver. Enough is never enough! Over the years I’ve learned to soften the edges of my holiday shopping anxiety with this simple mantra: It really is the thought that counts!
You don’t have to be an HSP (highly sensitive person) or Empath to find useful information in this post.
Do you have times where life just seems difficult or overwhelming?
We all have times in our lives where things feel difficult, chaotic or overwhelming. Life seems harder, you tend to be more affected by the people, circumstances, and energies around you. Even if you wouldn’t normally describe yourself as sensitive, you may find yourself feeling unusually triggered or unable to cope.
These tips may help during those times and during the Holidays
The Holidays are a time when you may be struggling to maintain your normal balance and calm. Some of these tips may come in handy now and at other times when you’re under additional stress. There is often too much to do, too many expectations, and other emotional ups and downs that may come up at this time of year.
You may be feeling emotions more strongly, and have thoughts, feelings, and sensations that you just can’t explain. In the course of a day you may swing wildly from happy, to sad, to fearful and back up (hopefully) to feeling good?
Have you been feeling like it’s difficult to think clearly? Do you know that feeling when you’re trying to figure out something and it’s just not making sense?
Are the signals to your brain getting scrambled?
Do you feel like your brain is just a little foggy and isn’t “computing” correctly? It seems to be going around. Some people describe it as difficulty focusing, but others say they can focus and concentrate just fine; it just doesn’t feel like things are coming in clearly…almost like the signal is a bit scrambled. Continue reading →