As women, we are often taught that we take care of everyone else first, and then if there is time and money left over, we take care of ourselves. What most of us don’t realize is that by doing that we are allowing ourselves to become de-energized – we are exhausted, possibly in pain, and lose the enthusiasm we once had.
When we are de-energized we actually become less able to take care of everything and everyone else.
Does your world feel a bit crazy, out of control, even chaotic?
You’re not alone, this seems to be a common state of being these days.
Grounding can make a huge difference
Psychology today reports that being grounded brings “… a deeper connection to the authentic self. Groundedness is associated “with an experience of clarity, wholeness, ‘rightness’ and harmony.” Continue reading →
What do Anxiety, Depression, Sleeplessness, Exhaustion, Brain fog have in Common?
If you are battling any or even all of the above issues, you’re not alone. It seems that everyone I talk to these days is complaining about most of these issues. In fact, the actual statistics are alarming.
Studies report that high levels of people have been diagnosed with:
Chronic Sleep issues 18%
Depression 7% in one study, 20-30% in others
Fatigue & exhaustion – various reports put that number between 20-75% of people.
That’s last is a pretty startling number. I also found it worrisome that the statistics given vary so greatly.
The world is too much with us; late and soon,
Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers… William Wordsworth
Our daily lives, full of obligation and negotiation, can be overwhelming. We toast together on New Year’s Eve, promising to create something new and better in the days to come. In that moment, anything is possible. So how do we move beyond the grind of our old routines and concerns once the party’s over?
Curiosity is the key. Sure, we need willpower and discipline. It also helps to create buddy systems to get us to the gym or make us accountable for our goals. And making that doctor’s appointment or finding a great coach gives us professional support and new tools. But these excellent strategies only work when we approach the puzzle with curiosity. Continue reading →
Ten Reasons to Smile and Laugh Your Way Through the Holidays
Holidays can produce joy OR stress, or both! You can create your own holiday mood by taking control of your emotions using smiles and laughter. Your body will respond immediately with happy feelings when you smile – and if you want to make other people happy, follow the same recipe – smiling and laughter. Here are 10 reasons to Smile and Laugh your way through the holidays, including some great youtube links to laughter-inducing funniest home videos!
1. Smiling Triggers the Release of Endorphins
The more endorphins you release, the happier you are! When you smile the muscle movement in your face triggers your brain to activate neurotransmitters which release endorphins. Endorphins like dopamine and serotonin are our feel-good chemicals.
Do you thrive on all the activities of the holidays? Do all those lists, shopping, plans, cooking and so on and on leave, you feeling energized or exhausted? If you answered yes, you can quit reading now.
However, if like many of us, you find the Holidays a mixed-bag and often end up feeling exhausted, drained, frustrated or sad, then keep reading.
There is certainly not a one-size-fits-all answer to how do “do” the Holidays. But this is a good time to take a careful assessment of which activities you enjoy, and which you do only because you “should”.
Just a few minutes setting priorities may make all the difference.
Take a few minutes not to set some priorities and things may go a little smoother allowing you to breeze through December with a smile on your face.
What’s a Holiday Sensitivity Profile? It’s your energy profile and prediction of how well you’ll get through the holiday!
The holidays are upon us again. For many of us, the holidays are a mixed bag. While many people look forward to them, others dread them or have mixed feelings for a variety of reasons.
I was reminded of this yesterday when talking to a very balanced, focused friend who was feeling “off” and kind of sad. When I mentioned that it’s almost Thanksgiving, she immediately knew that’s what was wrong.
If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person it’s quite likely that the holidays are more of a struggle for you, but even people who don’t normally have a problem find the holidays to be very stressful.
Don’t you just hate the pressure of finding the perfect gift?
I do! I start my holiday shopping early in the fall, because I’m picky about what I give my friends and family. And there are always people “impossible” to buy for! I’m torn between buying what I would want or finding something to fit them. (Hint: if we love it, they’ll probably feel the same way!) Whatever I buy, I worry they won’t be happy.
Are you a Co-Dependent gift giver?
You guessed it. I’m a co-dependent gift giver. Enough is never enough! Over the years I’ve learned to soften the edges of my holiday shopping anxiety with this simple mantra: It really is the thought that counts!
You don’t have to be an HSP (highly sensitive person) or Empath to find useful information in this post.
Do you have times where life just seems difficult or overwhelming?
We all have times in our lives where things feel difficult, chaotic or overwhelming. Life seems harder, you tend to be more affected by the people, circumstances, and energies around you. Even if you wouldn’t normally describe yourself as sensitive, you may find yourself feeling unusually triggered or unable to cope.
These tips may help during those times and during the Holidays
The Holidays are a time when you may be struggling to maintain your normal balance and calm. Some of these tips may come in handy now and at other times when you’re under additional stress. There is often too much to do, too many expectations, and other emotional ups and downs that may come up at this time of year.
You may be feeling emotions more strongly, and have thoughts, feelings, and sensations that you just can’t explain. In the course of a day you may swing wildly from happy, to sad, to fearful and back up (hopefully) to feeling good?